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The Hidden Cost of People Pleasing
The Hidden Cost of People Pleasing
People pleasing is often mistaken for kindness, but let’s be honest—it’s not the same thing.
Kindness comes from choice. People pleasing comes from fear.
It’s the fear of disappointing others. The fear of conflict. The fear of being disliked or misunderstood. So we say yes when we mean no, smile when we’re hurt, and stay quiet when we’re deeply unsettled. We contort ourselves into versions we think others will accept—hoping it will keep us connected, safe, or seen.
But here’s the truth: people pleasing isn’t a victimless habit.
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